How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 28.06.2025 02:25
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Making more friends is a goal.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
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How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
What I need from you?
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
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Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
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Living to your full potential is a goal.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
That's it for today.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
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Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Does not procrastinate.
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
Procrastinates a lot.
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I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
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Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Ask yourself:
Why do so many 18 to 29-year-old men struggle in dating?
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Do not set goals—set systems.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.